If you are squeamish, this post isn't for you. If you are curious, keep reading.
I think we live in a time where many things are accepted as topics to discuss except the menstrual cycle. I believe God had so much to say when he created women to be birth giving creatures and everything that comes with it. It is fascinating that there are men who have no idea what a menstrual cycle even is! As my future husband, this topic should not be off the table and you should at least make the effort to understand what I go through emotionally and physically once, sometimes twice, a month. Curiosity peaked? Read along.
A menstrual cycle is a monthly hormonal cycle that prepares a woman's body for pregnancy. On average, a woman's menstrual cycle falls somewhere between 21-35 days. This is NOT how many days we bleed, this is simply how long it takes between bleeds. On average, a woman bleeds between
4-8 days a month. This means that it takes a woman's body 21-35 days of preparation for the actual 4-8 days of menstruation, that may or may not happen depending if pregnancy has taken place. We bleed because the blood and tissue lining the Uterus (womb), break down and leave our body. In most cases, this means we aren't pregnant. During this time a woman may experience different chemical imbalances up to the day of menstruation. This means she can experience symptoms of depression, aching muscles, change in appetite, irritability and weight fluctuation. A woman isn't always going to feel the chemical changes, they are simply just happening in her body. All this happens within a month, every month, sometimes twice a month. All this happens in the hopes of bearing children, without our conscious consent, without any type of intervention, without asking our permission. Our body simply knows it has to do this because this is what we were created for. Once this cycle is completed, a new cycle begins the following month.
Now, I can almost bet money you have said this before"are you on your period or something?" when a woman around you is acting a bit off, or making you feel like she shouldn't be acting a certain way. Although this is a very cavemen-like statement to make, I don't blame you, til now you probably didn't know any better. From this moment on though, you aren't allowed to make those kind of comments anymore, you have been informed and warned :)
I needed to explain all of this to you so you could understand what God has placed in my heart.
When a chapter in a book comes to an end, a period is placed and a new title is created. Not every time, the chapter ending indicates the end of the book. The book continues and more periods mark the end of sentences, circumstances and eventually the ending of that chapter as well. Situations in life are very much like a menstrual cycle. When we experience a difficult time we may have symptoms of depression, anxiety, moodiness, and even weight fluctuation (compare this to the beginning of the cycle). While we are handling the situation we may feel beat up, tired, like we cannot move on (compare this to the menstruation). This can make you irritable and possibly snappy. It may look like a dark time, a cold place, a hole we have dug up and see no way out of. But when we finally see the light, the end of the tunnel, and see the solution to the problem, we ask for strength to gather ourselves and we finish the race.
Going through a rough time and coming out of it doesn't guarantee that there won't be more difficult times, it simply gives you experience and the wisdom you need to encounter something else later on. A period has been placed but, the chapter goes on, the book goes on, life goes on. We can't simply give up because we are going through a rough patch, we have to push forward because we believe better days will come. The pain will go away, the worry and irritability will subside, you will feel like yourself again and the wound that has been opened will close. You will stop bleeding.
Dear Future Husband, isn't it funny? That we are so different yet we experience the same emotional instability when we are faced with situations that are uncomfortable? The only difference is my situation, while being handled, bleeds out for everyone to see. I encourage you to not internalize how you are feeling, wether good or bad. Speak out, talk to someone, let it out. Having mental health comes with seeking help and finding solutions to circumstances. My solution to my circumstance? Pads. Tampons. Menstrual relief medication. Heating pads. Chocolate. Just like my period, your situation will subside if you have patience, seek a solution and be still.