What are some things that scare you about changing? Do you fear loosing yourself or finding yourself? Do you fear loosing friends in the process or gaining friends? Do you fear relocating your job, your home, your life? Do you fear not being able to change for the better? What if I told you change is inevitable and constant?
One thing I've learned about "changes" is that they will always happen around you and you can either embrace it or be dragged along. I've always wanted to change the world. I even went into a career that would allow me to expand on that dream. When I studied Psychology, I wanted to be able to talk to people who had been going through rough patches in life and guide them into making better decisions and creating a better life for themselves. I wanted to "change the world, one person at a time". I still do, don't get me wrong, but I realized that I needed to work on myself first. I can't change someone else's "world" if I don't change my own. So the process of taking my feathers out and breaking my beak began. In order to become a better version of myself, I needed to strip the things that stopped me. This included friendships, jobs, and mental mindsets that created chains and kept me stagnant. Until all those things were taken into perspective, I wasn't going to become a better version of myself. I needed to change my mind and my circumstances would follow... and they did!
I began to see things differently when I realized that the things/people I allowed to feed me emotionally and spiritually were no longer helping me grow. I needed to decide where I wanted to go and, how I was going to get there depended on me alone. Yes, I've lost friends along the way, I've stopped relationships and I've taken different jobs, but it all comes down to how much you think you are worth it. I think anything that strengthens my emotional and spiritual health is worth it. Aren't you worth a try at least? Aren't you worth the opportunity to become better?
In order to make the connection, you have to allow the connection. Im very content with where I am in life right now and I know Im here because I decided to make a decision that has allowed me to grow and eventually blossom. We are recognized by our fruit...
Dear Future Husband, is your fruit bitter or sweet? What are you doing about it? Im not perfect, my fruit is small but it exits. It proves to me that Im on the right path. God planted me near living water and Im drinking, rooting, expanding, and bearing.