Being able to get rid of all our baggage can be difficult. Sometimes we pack hurtful memories from our childhood, memories we haven’t been able to let go or take care of. Some of those bags have been packed by other people for us, they have items inside like titles, expectations, even abilities. These bags may come from our parents, friends, partners, etc, but what they all have in common is they weren’t packed by you.
We bring so much garbage from previous experiences to our new chapters in life. Over the years, we continue the same circle of mistakes and feelings that got us to feel terrible about ourselves in the first place. Just like the good, we bring the bad behaviors, the bad judgements and the lack of wanting to change because we are fixated into thinking “this is who I am.” Where did all this come from? Who impacted your life so much to the point of making you feel “this is who I am?” You see, everything you experienced, every painful moment you were allowed to go through, every disappointment, every struggle was meant to shape you into becoming a better version of you. Your better self is what’s meant to shine after all the difficult moments you have passed. You were meant to learn something from your failed project at school. You were meant to discover something about yourself from your first difficult breakup. My dear Future Husband, if you didn’t learn anything then did you really let go of that pain? Can you really claim that pain as yours? Can you be proud to have those battle scars?
Every struggle you go through is meant to shape you into a better person for the next chapter in your life. If you aren’t shaped, how are you supposed to level up? Growth doesn’t happen in our comfort zone. It is only when we are shaken down to our core that we discover meaning and purpose. Future Husband, what baggage are you still walking with? What needs to be decluttered? What you are holding on to may be the one thing not allowing you to experience further.
Assess your baggage and pack light on your next trip. Take everything that is necessary like love, kindness, compassion and willingness. Disregard things like hate, failure, judgement and fear. We are in a world filled with travelers who aren’t willing to pack light and due to the overflow of baggages in our train of life we are loosing sight of the people around us. Why do we carry so much? Why do we allow these bags in every journey?
Dear Future Husband, in our journey we are going to experience amazing and difficult things. We cannot take all our old experiences unless they will be somewhat helpful in our new ones, therefore, I encourage you to pack light. I encourage you to de-clutter and categorize. I encourage you to make new memories filled with hope and let go of all the memories filled with disappointments. I am here for you, so I will help declutter your baggage. I will also be carrying that load and I refuse to pack more than we need.