The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman, has been a favorite book of mine for years. I came across this book because a friend had a copy he wanted to share and I have been recommending it since. Not only does it show the different love languages that exist, it also explains different ways of apologizing and appreciating others. It is definitely a good read and an eye opening experience.
I believe this book is crucial in a relationship. According to Chapman, there are 5 love languages: Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, Quality Time and Physical Touch. He also mentions that we love others with the love language we receive the best. For example, those who feel loved by getting gifts from family members or friends will also give gifts to those they love. It is a way of expressing love unique to that person and it's also the best way to love them. On the other hand, if the person receiving gifts feels loved by Words of Affirmation they will most likely not feel loved by the act of being given a gift, they feel loved by hearing things like "you are a great person" or "thank you for all you do." This book is an eye opener to me because it made me think of the men I've dated and what their love language could be. I was loving them the way I wanted to be loved and we weren't speaking the same love language, which made the relationship frustrating for me and one-sided (I can only speak for myself but they probably felt the same, otherwise we would still be together). It is crucial to know what my partner's love language is because it will save us from many feelings of unmet expectations. With that said, what is your love language?
Dear Future Husband, if this is the first time you hear about this I encourage you to read the book and take the quiz! It will help you understand yourself better and you will also learn about me and how I receive love. My love language is Quality time and Acts of Service. If you read the book you will understand what that means.