How much do you like your space when sleeping? Do you like to cuddle? Do you put your leg on top of the other person? Do you snore? Do you drool? Do you move around often? Do you wake up unexpectedly in the middle of the night? How comfortable are you sleeping like sardines in a can?
As a parent of a 6 year old, these are the questions I need to ask. Although I have tried to get her to sleep in her own room since she was born, she still chooses to sleep with me. She has her own bed right next to mine, but my bed is more comfortable I suppose. We sleep very comfortably when it is just us two, but a third person will beg to differ. It took me years to come up with a comfortable sleep pattern so that I can actually sleep and wake up rested. She has slept under me for so many years I started to adjust to the lump on my rib cage and it felt normal after a while. When she started to grow I realized that the lump was now too big for me to find comfort with it so the nights started to feel shorter and shifting and tossing became my new norm. Not only does she snore (yes... she snores) she spreads her arms like wings and Ive gotten slapped in my sleep before. She likes to cuddle but in this - Im trying to push you off the bed - kind of way. Sleeping with me is not a pleasant experience, since I have a tiny human attached to my hip. I know eventually I will have to begin the whole - try to sleep in your bed this time - training but for right now, you might want your own bed.
I'm not trying to kick you out of the room and I'm definitely not saying you will have to deal with her sleeping with us, but can we just get one of those beds that fits 5 grown adults instead of 3? They don't make those beds? I will do my research... In the mean time, I'll help you pay for your bed; you might want a different room too since the snoring is really loud. She's an endearing little girl, she loves to cuddle and feel loved, but when she goes to sleep she sounds like a 20 year old lawn mower that either needs to be replaced or greased. Think about it...
Future Husband, we are a team, work with me. It's tough living alone with a little one. Most of the time I adjust to the sleeping arrangement because it is exhausting having to wake up in the middle of the night to move a 40lb child that feels like 100lbs. I'm sure when the time comes we can figure something out. She's getting older and will eventually not want to sleep with me anymore. Will our marriage be salvageable then? Or will it have been too late? Well, this is why I'm writing to you now. If nothing can be solved, I'll Rock-Paper-Scissor you every night for your room, I need a good night sleep too!